I was looking at some of my older posts and I have changed. I’m more positive and I feel like I’m finally starting to build a life that’s worth living. Now all I have to do is meet my match and find a job. Those are going to be hard to get, but I won’t get discouraged. Changing for the good is hard work though. It’s not going to be easy. I can make this change though. I know I can.
Why is change so important to me? Well, I want to be a happier person. I’m tired of putting myself down all of the time. I feel powerless at times. What good is change when people won’t accept you anyway? It’s those kinds of thoughts that I have to ignore. I don’t want to relapse and end up in a situation that I’d regret later. Is that why I’m serious about change?
Pentru cine nu ma cunoaste, eu sunt o persoana foarte deschisa si care prefera sa spuna lucrurilor pe nume. In special cand vine vorba de prieteni si prietene. Daca nu imi convine ceva si daca observ ca lumea susoteste pe baza unui “defect” pe care il are unul dintre prieteni (defect ce se poate remedia si/sau se poate lucra la el), eu prefer sa il trag deoparte si sa ii trantesc ideea. Cine intelege ca nu ii vreau raul, imi multumeste pentru ca am avut curajul sa ii spun in fata ca are acel defect.
Ei bine, ieri mi-am luat suturi de la fosta din cauza acestui motiv. Nu stiu de la ce am inceput discutia dar a inceput sa imi reproseze diverse lucruri, printre care faptul ca ii spuneam destul de serios ca trebuie sa slabeasca. Fata asta se apropia vertiginos de 80 de kilograme la o inaltime de 1.60 (maxim)… era dolofana rau si nu facea mai nimic pentru a schimba asta. N-am fost porc sa ii zic: “Cucoana, esti grasa! Pune-te pe sport si renunta la mancare, ca arati oribil!”, ci o incurajam sa iesim impreuna la sport si sa tinem un regim. Deh, si eu am un mic ghiozdanas (denumit burtica) de la un timp datorita jobului pe care il am – aproape 5% fiind procentajul in care mai facem putina miscare la job. Si eram de acord sa o iau de manuta si sa ne punem pe treaba.
Am vazut ca nu e motivata de acest lucru… si am decis sa ii spun in gluma ca o sa ma mut la ea daca slabeste si devine la fel de “buna” cum era in liceu – N-am vazut poze cu ea cap-coada din liceu, ci numai pana la bust, dar era suficient sa imi fac o parere – Mi-a aratat o singura data cum a aratat in liceu, aratandu-mi o pustoaica de 20 de ani intr-un parc.
Acum, dupa tam-tam-ul pe care l-am avut cu ea, imi scoate ochii cu chestia asta: am fost un nesimtit si superficial pentru ca i-am zis ca e plinuta si ca ar fi cazul sa se puna pe treaba! Mi-a sarit tandara si i-am trantit-o si eu, iar daca va vrea vreodata sa inteleaga, sa analizeze dracu’ bine cuvintele mele. Daca acum e plinuta si poate face ceva sa slabeasca, de ce sa taraganeze pana la 30 de ani cand nu o sa mai aibe chef si timp de nimic? Cum o sa arate ea insarcinata daca nu pune dracului putin mana pe treaba? Ea este draguta, are un chip dragut, dar o sa aibe probleme toata viata daca nu se mobilizeaza. Mi se pare de-a dreptul superficial sa imi spui mie: “Am intrebat barbatii si au zis ca daca iubita lor este insarcinata, tot ramane cea mai frumoasa femeie din lume pentru ei! Numai tu esti… pe langa subiect”.
Isi facea planuri de casatorie si imi batea mie apropouri?! Pai cum as putea eu sa o iau daca nu avea ambitie sa faca ceva? Munca – munca – acasa – mancat – uitat la filme – tocat ciocolata o data pe saptamana iar in restul zilelor seminte sau floricele de porumb, iar in weekenduri dormit pana la 2-3 (pranz). Voi ati lua de nevasta o femeie de genul asta?
Dupa ce am hotarat sa facem o pauza, s-a pus pe treaba si a fost decisa sa se schimbe la greu: incepand de la slabit, continuand cu sexul, terminand cu felul de-a fi ca persoana. Trebuia sa recurg la o astfel de solutie pentru a o motiva sa se schimbe?! Si daca acum s-a pus pe treaba, tot eu am fost badaran pentru ca i-am vrut binele, nu? Mi-a repetat ca nu se face asa… si nu ii spui unei femei sa slabeasca cum i-am spus eu… Pai eu i-am spus ca e simpatica si ca ar fi tare de tot ca tipa daca s-ar pune putin pe treaba: un regim, o miscare ceva (in afara de sex). Nu era bine, ci trebuia sa ii suflu-n cur si sa ii spun: “Esti frumoasa…” in loc de “simpatica”.
Ea avea mai multe defecte, pe unele le-a remediat in timp… cu ajutorul meu sau fara ajutorul meu – la insistentele mele sau fara insistentele mele. Pe alea nu le-a vazut acum, ci doar ca, vezi dom’ne, am jignit-o spunandu-i indirect ca e grasa!
Am trecut prin chestii de genul asta si cu prietenii mei: unii m-au ascultat si au avut putin creieras in cap incat sa ma asculte si sa analizeze, altii m-au injurat si mi-au spus ca nu sunt prieten adevarat, daca ii aduc critici si daca ii mustruluiesc daca fac ceva rau. Toti cei care nu inteleg imi spun ca trebuie sa ii sustin.
O intrebare la care vreau sa reflecte toti (indiferent ca sunteti prieteni, iubiti, amanti, soti, etc), in momentul cand primesc o critica de la prieteni si considera ca nu va sustin: “Daca aveti greutati in viata si vreti sa va sinucideti, ce ar trebui sa faca prietenul vostru cel mai bun? Cum ar fi sa va sustina la suicid?”… La intrebarea asta mi s-a raspuns cu texte de genul “asta e alta mancare de peste!”. Sa mori tu?! It’s the same fuckin’ thing!
Eu suport naibii orice idee, a oricarei persoane… Daca tot vreau sa comit greseala, o comit fara sa tin cont de ceea ce imi spune acea persoana. Dar niciodata nu o sa imi jignesc prietenii, niciodata nu o sa racesc relatiile cu un prieten daca imi spune verde-n fata ce probleme am, ce defecte am si ce ar trebui sa fac pentru a fi mai bine. Imi place sa mi se sufle-n cur (ca orice om), dar prefer sa nu mi se sufle-n cur daca nu am dreptate si prefer mai mult sa mi se dea cu un ciocan in oua cand sunt pe cale sa fac o gafa monumentala.
Ganditi-va mai bine cand va face cineva o sesizare! E posibil sa nu fie cu rautate. Inainte de actiunile voastre, puneti in balanta si ce v-a spus acea persoana.
Tonight we are excited to present Find A Career You Love tele-class at 7pm (central)! You can still sign-up – it is a tele-class for goodness sakes, so we always have room. This is a relaxed way for you to discover your career direction that you can do in your PJ’s!
About Me Years ago, I was an IT professional. I graduated with a degree in Management of Information Systems, and my first job out of college was programming (in COBOL) 3% death benefits for a variable annuity company – so when the annuity holder died his/her family would receive a 3% bonus. Morbid and sad, but boring! If you haven’t started yawning yet, I’ll do it for you!
I’ve always been good at computers from a young age. I didn’t actually “love” them, but I had a strong apptitude for computers. It seemed the right career path to follow. I followed that career for many years, and I literally dragged myself into work each morning. I never “excelled”, but I always “got by”. I jumped from job-to-job thinking that it was the company’s fault that I wasn’t happy.
After working in information technology for far too many years, I finally got fed up. I couldn’t take it anymore. I hired a Career Coach to help me find my passions. I use much of that material in our tele-class. Today, I am a Career Coach, Speaker, Show Host, Blogger and Writer on career-related topics. I’ve been interviewed by news agencies, and found good success with my new career. But…most of all…I am HAPPY! I LOVE what I do!
My only regret…. My only regret is that I waited soooo long to find my passion. I was interviewed by a show host a few years ago. His show’s tagline was “Life’s too short to be in a career you hate”. AMEN to that, brother!
Are you getting fed up? Jumping from job-to-job? Silently crying while you sit in traffic on your way to or from work? Isn’t life too short for all that mess?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Jay Markunas is a Career Coach who is in a career he LOVES! Along with his partner, Angela Loëb, will be hosting the Find a Career You Love tele-class TODAY! Included in the class is a Career Profile – DISC Assessment, the CareerFinder Method(TM) Worksheets, and 90-minutes of instructions on taking the first step to a career you love!
Through his company, Great Occupations, Jay helps job seekers and career shifters by offering The Job Search Boot Camp webinar, Find a Career You Love tele-coaching event, career & job coaching services, and career-related products. Each 1st & 3rd Saturday, he & Angela host The Job Search Boot Camp Show – which also available on iTunes.
NEWS Introducing the 2011 Budget By OMB Director Peter Orszag
February 01, 2010 at 10:34 AM EST
Today, the President transmitted the FY 2011 Budget to the Congress. In about an hour, he will deliver remarks about the Budget, and after that I will be taking questions from the press with CEA Chair Romer. This post gives readers of OMBlog a brief overview of the document.
After a year in which we took immediate and unprecedented action to rescue the economy from the brink of a second Great Depression, the FY 2011 Budget takes steps to jumpstart job creation, strengthen the economic security of middle-class families, and make the tough choices to put our Nation back on the path to fiscal sustainability.
When the President took office, the economy was on the brink of a depression. The economic crisis required that we take immediate and extraordinary steps to prevent a complete economic collapse that would have caused millions more to lose their jobs. Not all of the efforts we undertook to avoid a deeper recession were popular. Nonetheless the President did what was right for our country’s future: signing into law the Recovery Act to jumpstart economic growth and taking steps to prevent the collapse of the financial system.
A year later, the economy is back from the brink – and is growing again. This “statistical recovery,” however, is cold comfort for the millions of Americans who have lost their job. The President has therefore called for a package to spur job creation now – including small business tax cuts and investments in clean energy and infrastructure.
To sustain job creation and economic growth into the years ahead and provide room for the private sector to expand, we are also making tough choices in the Budget: cutting what doesn’t work or isn’t necessary and investing in what will help to expand the economy and employment in the coming years.
The Budget thus institutes a three-year non-security discretionary freeze that will save $250 billion over the next decade. We’re not putting forward an across-the-board freeze, but rather an overall cap on non-security discretionary funding in which key investments are expanded but we cut back on programs that are ineffective, duplicative, or just wasteful. As part of that overall effort, we identified more than 120 programs across the government that should be terminated or reduced – generating $20 billion in savings.
At the same time, we are making critical investments in the areas critical to building a strong economy in the 21st century. That is why we increase funding at the Department of Education by $2.9 billion or 6.2 percent, make the largest proposed request for Elementary and Secondary Education Act programs while reforming it to be more effective, and provide more money for Pell grants and Race to the Top.
To build a more modern infrastructure, the Budget establishes a new $4 billion dollar National Infrastructure Innovation & Finance Fund to focus on infrastructure investments of national and regional significance.
To help put the nation at the top of the pack when it comes to the new clean energy economy, the Budget includes more than $6 billion in funding for clean energy technologies while also eliminating existing fossil fuel subsidies. And to continue our country’s proud, innovative history, the Budget invests $61.6 billion for civilian research and development – an increase of $3.7 billion, or 6.4 percent, over 2010 levels.
As we focus our efforts on spurring job creation and jumpstarting economic growth, we also have to change business as usual in Washington and restore fiscal responsibility. Because of the irresponsibility of the past decade, we’ve seen a projected 10-year surplus of over $5 trillion at the end of the Clinton administration turn into a projected 10-year deficit of over $8 trillion the day President Obama took office.
The Budget lays out a plan to put the country back on a sustainable fiscal path.
First, we have already taken action to avoid making the hole any deeper. The Administration proposed, and the Senate just joined the House in passing, statutory pay-as-you-go (PAYGO) legislation. PAYGO forces us to live by a simple but important principle: Congress can only spend a dollar on an entitlement increase or tax cut if it saves a dollar elsewhere. In the 1990s, statutory PAYGO encouraged the tough choices that helped move the Government from large deficits to surpluses, and it can do the same today.
Second, economic recovery – on its own – would take our deficits from 10 percent of GDP to 5 percent of GDP. To take them down further, the Budget proposes a series of policies including: the three-year non-security freeze mentioned above; restoring some balance to the tax code by allowing the 2001 and 2003 tax cuts to expire only for those making more than $250,000 a year and reducing the rate at which these same households write-off itemized deductions; ending subsidies for oil, gas, and coal companies and closing other loopholes; and putting in place a responsibility fee on the largest banks to compensate taxpayers for the extraordinary direct and indirect help they provided while also discouraging excessive leverage.
Third, these policies will take deficits down to 4 percent of GDP – amounting to $1.2 trillion in deficit reduction excluding war savings. But that is still not enough, and the only way to solve this is to change Washington, and bring Republicans and Democrats together to work on this problem. That is why the President wants to establish a bipartisan, fiscal commission to look at a range of proposals and put forward a bipartisan recommendation to balance the budget excluding interest payments on the debt by 2015. This type of process has worked in the past, and if everyone in Washington puts the national interest first, we are confident it will again.
Finally, as I have said many times before and will again (since it’s still true!), the key to our long-term fiscal future is fiscally-responsible health insurance reform. All our steps to rein in the deficit will be for naught if we do not reduce the rate of health care cost growth over time. The legislation passed by both the House and Senate will reduce the deficit over the next decade and put in place the key pieces that will help to bring down health care costs over time. Congress must now deliver on this promise of fiscally responsible health reform – the stakes are high, both for the millions of Americans who lack a stable source of health insurance coverage and for the fiscal well-being of the Nation itself.
If we take follow the plans laid out in the Budget, I am confident that we will be able to spur job creation now and in years to come and put our Nation back on a fiscally sustainable path, which is critically important to the future growth and prosperity of the United States.
Cross-posted from the OMB Blog, read more details on the OMB Budget page. Peter Orszag is Director of the Office of Management and Budget
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I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t know if I have really gotten into the right type of career that could ever be all that satisfying to me. I do nothing with music and working for the man is really bringing me down. 2010, I am going to figure out what I am doing, for who and where…and get it done. I have a friend or two who is doing exactly what they want, and are excited almost everyday they wake up to do it. Everyone has their more frustrating days, but they went for what they wanted and are doing what they are passionate about. I long to be one of them. Its not to say they haven’t worked hard to get where they are…but its not hard work when you love what you do.
I have to look hard at my life and talents and figure out what my calling is, while still making a paycheck. It’s not this. It’s not here. Or maybe it’s me.
Tonight we are excited to present Find A Career You Love tele-class at 7pm (central)! You can still sign-up – it is a tele-class for goodness sakes, so we always have room. This is a relaxed way for you to discover your career direction that you can do in your PJ’s!
